'Why do I feel this way?!'

Motherhood’s tidal wave of emotions

You’re not alone. Society expects new moms to be blissfully happy, but many struggle with temporary emotional upheaval: What have I done? Will my life ever be the same again? Have I just lost my identity?

Reproductive psychiatrist Alexandra Sacks, M.D., attributes it to “matrescence,” or the transition to motherhood, which can result in mood swings not seen perhaps since puberty. It’s normal and temporary—but hard to go through:

• Talk about your feelings with your partner, family or close friends who are also moms. 

• Take time for yourself every day. Ask your partner, friend or family member to care for your baby while you take a break. It’s important to your well-being!

• Talk with your (or your baby’s) healthcare provider if you feel intensely depressed or overwhelmed for more than a few days. Postpartum depression affects up to 20% of mothers and is treatable.

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